As promised here is an update.
Car has had a new head fitted......... so no holiday and fixed the car instead....... V V pricey......
To all those losing coolant on the TDI 1.9 engine, beware!!
Ask garage to do a block test which will change colour if gases are escaping, apparently takes some time to change if you are only experiencing coolant loss when the car is under load (ie 70/80 uphill or heavily loaded). If it changes colour, you have a leak in the system.
Garages go for the coolant pump first (old plastic impellers fall apart - but ours was fine) and if you are lucky that will fix your problem. By the way, to get to the coolant pump they have to remove the cam so this isn't a cheap job! Don't bother with the rad, ours was fine and I have seen loads of posts where the rad was replaced and didn't fix the problem.
These heads aren't meant to be skimmed either...... think seriously then about getting rid of your car, work out how much you have already spent on it and whether it is better to keep spending or cut your losses. Since we had already spent out on new tyres, new cam, new coolant pump, Air Mass Flow, full service, new discs/pads, front struts/rear suspension.... etc etc we decided to keep going.


By the way, anyone have any ideas on why my fuel consumption should be down at 37mpg now but before the new head I was averaging 46mpg?