Where is the relay?

Where is the relay hiding?
Where is the relay located that powers the heated mirror circuit on the 2000 1.8T beetle? Both sides were working some time ago. I have confirmed that the mirrors themselves are working properly when powered up. All fuses have been checked and I removed and checked the plugin relays which all work.

The wiring diagram I have shows the relay to be in position eight. That position does not have a relay in it yet the heat circuit has worked. Is the relay under the dash cover and not behind the instrument cluster above the clutch/brake pedals?
I have been jumping the drivers side power source to the mirror to the red/white lens light in the bottom of the drivers door. You must keep the door ajar to power the drivers side mirror.

I hate to go to the dealer for this simple trouble shooting that surly will cost me $60+ just for labor.

Cool mirror luke needs your help.